{"id":5635,"date":"2021-10-11T20:35:47","date_gmt":"2021-10-11T20:35:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mary-jo.com\/?p=5635"},"modified":"2024-02-15T17:45:47","modified_gmt":"2024-02-16T01:45:47","slug":"resiliency-in-changing-times","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/staging.mary-jo.com\/wordpress\/blog\/2021\/10\/11\/resiliency-in-changing-times\/","title":{"rendered":"Resiliency in Changing Times"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I\u2019m not sure about you, but for me most everything this past year, including Christmas was different. From my own major health challenges and my mother\u2019s passing to staggering political, social and climate catastrophe\u2019s, the extirpation of outdated, systems, beliefs and ways of being that do not serve has disrupted the status quo, leaving most of us quite altered from where we started a year ago.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The roof across the alley from my bedroom window spilled the long low rays of the solstice sun over its ridge onto me as I lay heavily on my bed. Christmas eve day would be dictated by the deep acrid feeling in my belly, tormented from a unusual year of repeated monthly antibiotic toxicity. I felt completely depleted cellularly amongst the discouragement of the continual bodily assaults. But it is Christmas!\u00a0However my usual approach \u2013 to rally in like the rest of the sheep, to the hark and herald song was different this year and I took notice.\u00a0But it wasn\u2019t just my delicate physical state dictating the shift. No, life was moving me, like many of us along on some unusual trajectory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In addition to the kids not coming home or not exactly celebrating Christmas this year, my extended family were all staying put, adjusting to my mom\u2019s absence and intentionally scaling back on the usual hype and seasonal stress. Initially I was concerned, having long held the belief and tradition of the Christmas celebration as the pivotal non-negotiable time to get together with family and do it up. Somehow if nothing else, it perpetuates or assumes the illusion, that things are the same and ok.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">But maybe they\u2019re not and that may be ok. Facing major change and re-structuring will challenge our emotional intelligence and resilience. In fact I think resilience is both a remedy and a result of life\u2019s upheavals. It\u2019s like courage, you need to have it to get through the challenges and you get more of it by using it. Christmas was delightful long distance calls, followed by a four hour massage and healing session ending with a beautiful meal prepared with love by my daughter and Boxing day visits with dear childhood friends . I marveled at how peaceful and fulfilled I felt. There was no thought \u201cthis should be different.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">What I noticed in myself was the amazing capacity to accept what is. I found myself not having expectations about what Christmas would be at all. I thought I would but I didn\u2019t. My ability to re-orientate was refreshing. Normally my emotions would be pulled by my own and my community\u2019s ideas\u2019 of what Christmas \u2018should be\u2019.\u00a0My teacher likes to say, \u201cexpectations are planned disappointments\u201d in fact accepting \u2018what is\u2019, is the hallmark of most eastern spiritual traditions and a cornerstone of resiliency.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The other cornerstones which make up the foundation of the landing pad of resiliency are perspective, purpose and non-personalization. Resiliency is the ability to adapt and we need that now more than ever, personally and collectively. Resiliency is also\u00a0the capacity to reimagine to reinvent and to find solutions when there seems to be nothing but barren ground. Often learned through adversity, neuroscience tells us that we can all learn to become more Resilient, it is a skill, one I realize I know quite a lot about, I have had my fair share of trauma and adversity.\u00a0In fact I have been writing about my journey with trauma and resilience in my memoir, due to be available later this new year. Be sure to follow and sign up for updates on\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/mary-jo.com\/blog\/\">my Blog<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">One of the ways that life has been moving me recently is to reinvent my offering to the world. Instead of focusing all on Therapeutic &amp; Adaptive Yoga I am shifting to a new skill I have been developing \u2013 <a href=\"https:\/\/mary-jo.com\/your-healing-life-lifestyle-spiritual-coach\/\">Personal Coaching<\/a>\u00a0for Resiliency.\u00a0I\u2019m very excited about this new direction and especially to share it with clients to help navigate through life\u2018s trials and tribulations. Find out more on\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/mary-jo.com\/\">my personal site<\/a>\u00a0or on\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.trinityyoga.net\/\">Trinity Yoga<\/a>.\u00a0\u00a0For now I leave you with a poem for the new year of 2020 and may you all be peaceful and prosperous.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Something that will not acknowledge conclusion, insists that we forever begin.\u201d Brendan Kennelly<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Blessing<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Mary-jo<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I\u2019m not sure about you, but for me most everything this past year, including Christmas was different. 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